The first step to healing is to admit and accept ‘I have created this experience/problem/conflict.’ Until we can accept this fact, rather than blaming others, we cannot truly heal. For instance, the person who we feel is causing us distress may have done some awful things, but energetically, we have been brought together to experience certain situations. If we can begin to recognise the pattern, and endeavour to bring awareness to the fact that we created and thus attracted the situation, then we can begin to change the way we react to it. Reacting negatively often results in us repeatedly experiencing this difficulty throughout our life until we recognise the wisdom of the lesson we have been attracting on a soul level.

Ask yourself, why one child is bullied when another is not. If you observe, you will realise that the child that is bullied is living a role of being a victim. Their reaction to being bullied will remain the same into adult hood, when they may find they attract a partner who does not respect them. Once they realise they are living a pattern, which brings them unhappiness, they can then chose to change this. Often, people with low self esteem do not love themselves and feel they are not good enough and therefore may feel they do not deserve to be happy. Energetically, this then instructs the Universe to bring challenging situations their way.

The child that is not being bullied does not have a victim program, therefore does not need to create the bully in the first place. Another example is when one person constantly attracts conflict into their lives. Where-ever they go, they will find someone to have conflict with. Whereas most people generally do not create constant conflict.

By the Law of Attraction, the universe constantly provides us what we ask for, so although we may believe that we are asking for only positive experiences, subconsciously before we gain awareness and insight to our patterns, our hidden emotions, or the ones we choose not to recognise as our own – e.g. playing the victim or attracting conflict – will constantly appear.

The second step to healing is to find ways to efficiently and effectively clear our negative patterns. I have found the healing techniques I use to be some of the fastest ways available in the world of natural healing to achieve the positive results my clients are hoping for. By using a combination of dowsing – to find the exact weakening program, then using a channelled object called the Living Lens, immediate and profound change often takes place for many. If you are finally ready to release yourself from your self-punishing, negative programs, do get in touch with me to discuss further.

Tony Mills provides consultations in Lymington, Romsey and Christchurch and can also offer distance healing. Visit my website at or Tel: 07745 803307 / 07445 693 111

Tony will be speaking and exhibiting at our Bournemouth event on May 14th 2017.